Cross-Cultural Dating: Episode 786

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At the outset, she says, think about what you can contribute to the collaboration, even if you come from a laboratory with fewer resources. Then, says Dedysh, “be a good, welcome guest.” Contribute to the group, but not necessarily as an expert. In fact, Dedysh advises humility, even as a senior scientist working with students. “Don’t criticize the lab,” she says, “and don’t behave as if you are the boss. That will never be helpful.” Instead, help out, clean up messes, and be a good lab citizen. Share your expertise if asked and you’ll be rewarded with coworkers and friends who want to help you succeed. Aijie Wang says attending international meetings and inviting collaborators from other countries is a good way to hone communication skills and usually, “it’s not hard to exchange ideas about science.” Communication across cultures and languages is easier when you’re in the same room.

Every culture has some form of friendship, but it’s constructed and viewed differently across cultures. For example, compared to other cultures, Americans often have more friends with greater differences between them. Other cultures like Ghana tread more carefully when making friends (Adams & Plant, 2003). Some cultures emphasize intimacy and quality of interactions in their friendships.

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She talks of the “sparks of joy, cultural appreciation and understanding” you can get from skimming through a post – couples recount how they met, personal anecdotes and problems they have encountered and overcome. On Valentine’s Day this year, they went live with the initiative “Love Has No Borders” to highlight relationships such as theirs, to draw parallels and to connect people in similar situations.

For example, Emotional closeness is often highly valued in many Asian and African cultures. These cultures prioritize the “family self.” This simply means that anything that brings honor to one’s family also brings honor to oneself and anything that shames a child also brings shame to the family. In psychology, cultural differences in relationships are often viewed through the lens of individualist vs collectivist cultures. In psychology, cultural differences in relationships are often viewed through individualist vs. collectivist cultures. As a marriage counselor and couples therapist, l know that all relationships bring a variety of challenges and opportunities for growth. At the same time, some couples — particularly those in intercultural and cross-cultural relationships — get involved in online couples therapy or Amourfactory relationship coaching because they have further to go in bridging the gap.

Cross-Cultural Competence: Engage People from any Culture

By creating a sense of “we” that focuses on friendship, integration, and inclusion, couples can rewrite their story in such a way that focuses on shared values, obstacles they’ve overcome, and relational strengths. Every couple has much in common with other couples and yet is also like no other couple in the world. By recognizing and valuing this, we create a richer world for all couples. Mike learns that keeping eye contact is considered aggressive and impolite in China.

Even when members of different cultures develop a high degree of trust, it may take time before their relationships are as comfortable as the relationship the other person has with people from their own culture. “I don’t think there are any cons,” says Tiedje about hosting guest researchers, “although it’s good to have clear goals.” Find mutually beneficial projects that can be achieved in a realistic timeline, he says. Be clear about expectations and if possible, arrange for multiple visits. Wang visited the Tiedje lab in 2006 and agrees that straightforward discussions at the start of a partnership prevent surprises later. For example, she says, international collaborations taught her the importance of early discussions about publications. “In China,” she says, “we expect to honor anyone who helped us by making them coauthors.” Working with non-Chinese colleagues, she learned to express clear expectations around authorship from the beginning of a project. Successful global partnerships acknowledge and celebrate cultural differences and anticipate rough spots.

You may be wanting to honor your parents/family by marrying someone who has similar cultural experiences than you. Perhaps you are looking for someone who speaks your language to connect with your Opa.

It was believed to be a natural quest for completion. Unfortunately, more current research from Markey & Markey found the opposite. What is not in question is when it comes to work colleagues and friends. On the job or with friends, we are not particularly interested in dealing with people who are unlike ourselves.

Try and focus on your partner’s beliefs and opinions and never allow anyone to make up your mind for you. Find out why your partner’s culture has these beliefs or even traditions before comparing your culture to theirs. Face it, your partner has a different culture to you. When someone forms an assumption, it tends to stick in our mind. But, it’s these ‘assumptions’ about your partner’s culture that makes their culture look more scary or even dangerous. These twelve principles give you some pointers about how to think about the experiences you have in new cultures.

I can only speak from my perspective, but I refuse to accept that I am solely a product of my childhood. Sure, we are heavily impacted by our formative years, but we are also shaped by all the memories, experiences, and times that come after. I might be an “only-child, Shanghainese princess,” but I’m also a dependable friend, a good listener, and stubborn or charming, depending on my mood. I’m a human with flaws, some of which have nothing to do with my upbringing or culture. I know I have things to fix, but despite there always being room for improvement, it’s OK to not be perfect. Though perhaps next time, I’ll start by looking for another only child. Maybe you are wanting to date within your community to emphasize the goodness that committed love/intimacy can have on the whole racial or cultural community.

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